Woken up in a cold sweat after dreaming you banged your boss? Us too.
Apparently it’s a totally normal thing; any faces you dream about you actually already know. Sometimes it’s your executive manager, other times it’s the random stranger you walked past on your morning coffee run.
Doesn’t make it any less weird though and, according to dream psychologist Lauri Loewenberg, who you’re hooking up with in the Land of Nod could even have a hidden meaning.
You can calm down, you’re not still in love with them. (Unless you are, and then naw. Pet.) Nope, Loewenberg says this is actually the most common sex dream and it’s nothing more than a subconscious nostalgic-laden trip.
“If it’s been a long time since this person’s been in your life, it’s not about him, but about what he represents: first love, the passion, excitement, being desired, desiring someone,” she explained to Cosmopolitan.com.
“It’s a gentle reminder from your subconscious that this excitement is something you need to bring back into your relationship. Find a way to spice it up and bring back the spark and passion.”
YOUR BEST MATE
There’s nothing like a sex dream with your bestie to bring the blush, but it doesn’t mean you want to marry them and have their babies. In fact, this dream is more about you than them; Loewenberg says that it’s your brain’s way of telling you that maybe you need to adopt some of their better traits.
There are two times of celeb sex dreams – the ones you have a legitimate crush on and the ones you’ve never considered even remotely attractive before. Either way, Loewenberg is circling back to the same theory as banging your best mate. It’s not who you’re having sex with in your dream but what they represent. Having fanciful thoughts about Zac Efron could be your brain remembering how caring he was in 17 Again.
That and he’s hot AF.
This one depends who you’re jumping into bed with. If it’s a regular co-worker – aka your pod partner – you can apply the best mate theory again. You’re just looking up to them. If it’s your boss? You may need to connect with them in a different way; Loewenberg suggests trying to team up for a project or something similar that will allow you to learn how to be your own boss.
Ooh, you kinky. Except not really; Loewenberg’s expert take on having sex in a public place is that it’s indicative of something going on in that place. “In dreams, we use geographical locations to symbolise geographic areas of your life: like your home life, your work life, your love life, your social circle,” she says. “The public location would symbolise some part of your life that everyone knows about.”
So if you’re getting freaky at uni or at work, it’s probably because you’re thinking about either of those places quite a bit.