This is a PSA: guests, you’re ruining the wedding.
A New South Wales wedding photographer posted a lengthy Facebook rant about the one thing that ruins weddings, and it’s the guests obsession with capturing the beautiful moment on their phones.
Thomas Stewart went on to explain that this behaviour leads to the bride and groom not enjoying their day.
He posted a powerful photo to accompany his post, that shows the groom leaning around guests who were filming the bride walking down the aisle.
He began by writing on his Facebook page: “I want to plead with you, and I’m going to make this very simple: brides and grooms, please have a completely unplugged wedding ceremony.”
“Look at this photo. This groom had to lean out past the aisle just to see his bride approaching. Why? Because guests with their phones were in the aisle and in his way.”
“Imagine you’re in the middle of your wedding ceremony. You’re elated. You decide to take a quick glance towards your guests as you’re sure they’re sharing these happy moments with you, possibly even shedding a tear of their own. What do you see? NO FACES AT ALL AS THEY ARE ALL HIDDEN BEHIND PHONES AND CAMERAS! I highly doubt this is the way you want to remember your wedding ceremony.”
Stewart photographs around 70 weddings per year, and he told news.com.au that he realise he had to set up etiquette for the guests.
“What I realised is, as photographers we have an ability to educate our clients about things they don’t know about. Most people haven’t been married before, so they have no idea about these things.”
Not only does having guests in the aisles taking their photos make his job very difficult, it also blocks the bride and groom’s view of each other.
“That’s the most important thing. I don’t want my clients to have memories of looking at their guest and seeing a sea of iPads,” he said.
The post has been shared over 29,000 times and most of the response he’s gotten has been “pretty positive”.
“I really should have educated this couple and explained to them why this is an issue, I don’t want to blame the guests – unless they’re told by us they don’t know any different,” he said.
He said couples should opt for an “unplugged ceremony”, to help the official photographer get the best shots they can.
“You’re paying a photographer quite a bit of money; that means you want great photos. We cannot do our best work with people getting in our way,” he wrote.
It also means you won’t miss the special day by having a camera phone in front of your face the whole day.
“You will miss moments of your own wedding day because there’ll be an iPad in the way. You will miss seeing your partner’s face in the aisle,” he said.
“You are witnesses to their marriage, so for goodness sake, watch them with your eyes and your minds, not your phones.”