Throw your mind back to The Bachelor last year with astrophysicist Matt Agnew and no doubt you’ll probably get flashbacks of dry humping on the beach, lots of making out and one brutal break up – All of which involved one person, runner up Abbie Chatfield.

It seemed like Abbie truly was in love with Matt but at the end of the season he told her that his heart was with someone else, leaving her pretty blindsided.

While it’s been almost a year since The Bachelor was filmed, and Abbie has actually been part of Bachelor in Paradise since then, it seems her heartbreak with Matt still hits hard.

While speaking with Kyle and Jackie O this morning, Abbie admitted that she’s actually found it really hard to trust anyone, especially in a sexual manner, since putting her heart on the line with Matt.

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“I don’t really have sex that much because I don’t really trust anyone after The Bachelor, if we’re going into that who thing, anymore,” Abbie admitted.

“Understandable too because it looked like you were going to win that,” Kyle replied.

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“Yep,” Abbie agreed. “It was a disaster.”

Of course Abbie and Matt never actually slept together due to rules on the show, but Abbie certainly put herself out there when it came to a sexual relationship between herself and Mr Agnew.

And it seems that after doing this and being rejected, it’s left a bit of a scar on Abbie’s dating life.

“Like I said, I don’t really sleep with anyone anymore unfortunately because of the last year,” Abbie revealed.

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The only way I can describe this moment is complete and utter shock. I was numb. I couldn’t and didn’t want to feel anything. I had felt for weeks that what Matt and I had was real and I trusted him wholeheartedly when he told me how he felt about me. From Hometowns, I forgot the cameras were there. It didn’t feel like we were filming a show at all, it felt like we had this real relationship built in a little bubble of “The Bachelor” and we would be out soon and able to live a normal life. Hearing Matt say “my heart is with someone else” reminded me that we were filming and that Matt had to make a difficult decision, and he did not see in me what I saw in him. I felt silly for ever imagining Matt would love me. It was like emotional whiplash. I was so confused and it felt like I was in a dystopian reality. The second the cameras turned off, I sobbed. I screamed. I couldn’t breathe. I didn’t think think this would be how we would end. I spent weeks crying about this relationship that had almost no closure. I still haven’t fully healed from my relationship with Matt, but I know he and the gorgeous woman he is with are happy, and that’s all that matters. #thebachelorau

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“Wow so that’s really affected you quite badly?” Kyle asked. “So you’ve not slept with anyone over the past year or not many people?”

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“Well I was dating Todd King from the Bachelorette for a little while,” Abbie admitted. “And then I’ve had other people in between but with people that I’ve known for years before the show.”

While her past with Matt has affected her sex life, Abbie isn’t giving up on finding love and a real relationship, telling us that she’s still open to finding the one.

“I still want a relationship with someone, but I’m not going to settle just for anyone that comes along,” she said. “I just want someone that I really do like and love being around.”

We wonder if Abbie finds someone like this on Bachelor in Paradise? Judging by the teaser we’ve seen so far, it looks like she’s certainly got her eye on Ciarran from Angie Kent’s season of The Bachelorette!

We guess we’ll just have to wait and see on this one though.

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Hear more from our chat with Abbie Chatfield in the podcast below!