Woman Writes Her Own Obituary And Inspires Us To Do Better
Sonia Elaine Todd was just 38 years old when she lost her battle with cancer back in 2012.
Before she passed, brave Sonia decided she should do something different and pen her own obituary.
In this moving piece she reminded friends, family and strangers alike about the important things in life.
While written over four years ago, her words still ring very true today.
My name is Sonia Todd, and I died of cancer at the age of 38.
I decided to write my own obituary because they are usually written in a couple of different ways that I just don't care for.
Either, family or friends gather together, and list every minor accomplishment from cradle to grave in a timeline format, or they try and create one poetic last stanza about someone's life that is so glowing one would think the deceased had been the living embodiment of a deity.
I don't like the timeline format because, let's face it, I never really accomplished anything of note.
Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior - I have done very little.
None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for.
I also didn't want a bunch of my friends sitting around writing a glowing report of me, which we all know would be filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies.
I just don't like to put people in that kind of situation.
The truth, or my version of it, is this: I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried.
For all of my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people.
The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in.
I didn't always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people.
My life was not perfect and I encountered many, many bumps in the road. I would totally scrap the years of my life from age 16 to 20 ... OK, maybe 14 to 22.
I think that would eradicate most of my fashion disasters and hair missteps from the '80s.
But mostly, I enjoyed life. Some parts of it were harder than others, but I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn't do any more than that.
Besides there are some benefits to dying youngish, for example, I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I'm not paying them.
Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers or the IRS. I don't have to worry about wrinkles or the ozone layer and/or hide from the news during election season.
Some folks told me that writing my own obituary was morbid, but I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way.
Those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you.
That is what made my life worthwhile. If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this:
- Volunteer at a school, church or library.
- Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life.
- If you smoke - quit.
- If you drink and drive - stop.
- Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams.
- Forgive someone who doesn't deserve it.
- Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product.
- Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.